... then you need to find your own! There are certain folks in my family that ask about when I am going to get married, have children, be dependent on another individual, blah, blah, blah, etc every time they see me. Usually you think of these people as those who are in their 80s and sleep without their teeth at night. WRONG! This is a person who is four months younger than me. My conclusion to her eagerness for me to marry is she is JEALOUS! That's right, someone wants my "carefree" and single life after they got married at (somewhere around) 16 and had babies by time I was graduating college. She must think all I do is party with all of my other single friends, only work between eight a.m. and five p.m., cuddle with my cat, and sleep a full eight hours a night. I've got new for her: The grass is definitely not greener on this side.
I work all the time. If it isn't for my full time job it is other random side jobs I do to try to lower my debt or be able to do something special. Yes, I do hang out with my friends but once a week is usually not the minimum. I cuddle with my cat but I also have to feed him and scoop his litter box. When Luna got sick a couple weeks ago, I cried so hard. I often lose sleep over things or stay up late working on things I can't complete while in the office. I only get to see my boyfriend once a week and he lives about an hour away. I'm sure you get what I'm trying to say. I have my problems too.
I also have a problem with those that ask where my boyfriend is. I'm sorry but the last time I checked there are no rings (note the plural) on my finger and no piece of paper saying we're married. He's a grown man, he can be where he wants to be. I don't need to know every detail of his life and he is more than capable of taking care of himself and the same is true for me. Trust me, he takes very good care of me. He can tell when I am not feeling well and knows when to just hold me and not say a word.
Trust me, I want to get married and have babies one day but the time has to be right and according to God's plan. This life is lived for God and He makes the ultimate decision. There are things I could be asking them but I keep my mouth shut. If and when I get engaged I thought about not telling some folks for a little while. They've waited this long, they can wait a few more weeks. ;)
